With unemployment soaring, children and grandchildren may need financial help now more than ever. Whether funds are needed to save a home from foreclosure, further an education or simply keep food on the table, children and grandchildren may seek access to the Bank of Mom and Dad.

There are several things to consider when a child, grandchild or friend needs money.

First, never, ever put your own financial future at risk. Only lend or give what you can afford to lose.

Even if you expect repayment on a loan, there is always the possibility that you will not be paid back, or in a timely way. Only part with what you can comfortably live without.

For gift purposes in 2009, you can give up to $13,000 to any one person without filing a gift tax return with the IRS. This $13,000 amount is per individual donor and individual donee. A husband and wife together can give $26,000 to a child or to any individual without filing a Gift Tax Return with the IRS. The gift and estate tax laws for 2010 have not been announced yet, but it appears gift amounts will remain the same.

If the financial assistance is a loan, get an agreement in writing, specifically a promissory note. While a note may feel too formal for inter-family loans, remember that the document protects both parties.

A written understanding of the terms of the loan will speak for both parties if something were to happen to either of you. A trustee, spouse or other personal representative will need to

know the terms of the loan so they can enforce it or forgive it, depending on the arrangement.

The note should contain the amount of the loan, repayment schedule (including amounts and interest rate), and how problems will be resolved should a dispute arise. If the borrower is unable to repay the debt, the lender can use the formally-written note to write off the loan as a bad debt for income-tax purposes.

Once the loan is made, keep a schedule of all payments received. You may consider having the note "administered" by a third-party professional. If you are a pushover and your child or grandchild has a sob story every month and no payments are forthcoming, it may be prudent to ask your CPA or attorney to take over the administration.

Better yet, involve your professional adviser at the onset to put the loan documentation together, to handle the bookkeeping of payments received, to provide appropriate tax reporting for interest received, and to pursue missed payments.

Having the loan treated more formally by both you and the borrower keeps you out of the hot seat if the borrower encounters trouble with repayment, and can insulate the family from ill feelings.

Finally, consider the impact a gift or loan has on your estate planning. If your estate plan leaves all assets equally to three children and one of these children has needed "an advance" on his or her inheritance, should the outstanding loan amount or gift reduce the share of your estate passing to that child?

Speak with your attorney so proper reference to the gift or loan can be made in your estate planning documents.

Sharing our bounty with a child in need can be very rewarding for both Mom and Dad — and for the child.

Proper set-up, records, and estate planning keep you on the right side of the IRS and on the right side of your heirs.

Liza Horvath is a trust officer with a local bank and has more than 25 years of experience in the estate planning and trust fields. She can be reached at 915-0272 or liza@montereytrust.com.